First-Time Client? Escort Etiquette Dos and Don'ts

Booking a companion for the first time can feel intimidating. The good news is that almost everything that makes a booking go well comes down to ordinary good manners. Companions are professionals running their own businesses, and the clients they welcome back are the ones who communicate clearly, respect boundaries and turn up when they say they will. Here is what you need to know.

Before you get in touch

Read the profile properly

A good profile tells you how the companion prefers to be contacted, what information they need, their rates, their availability and what they do not offer. Questions that are already answered on the profile are the quickest way to look like you have not paid attention. On Escorts Guide, take a moment to read the full ad and check the city and contact options before sending a message.

Check the local law

The law on paying for companionship and sexual services varies enormously between countries, and sometimes between cities. In some places it is regulated, in others it is tolerated with restrictions, and in some it is a criminal offence for the client. It is your responsibility to know the rules where you are. Our guides to UK and European law are a good starting point.

First contact

• Be brief and polite. Introduce yourself, say which date, time and duration you are interested in and where you would like to meet.
• Keep it non-explicit. Graphic messages are disrespectful and in many countries can create legal problems for both parties. Most companions will simply not reply.
• Do not haggle. Rates are set by the companion. If the price is outside your budget, thank them and move on.
• Provide the screening information requested. Screening protects both of you. If you are not comfortable with a companion's screening process, choose someone else rather than arguing.

Before the meeting

Confirm the booking on the day if the companion asks you to. Plan your journey so that you arrive on time; arriving very early can be as inconvenient as arriving late. If you need to cancel, do so as early as possible and respect any cancellation policy, including deposits that were agreed in advance.

Personal hygiene is non-negotiable. Shower beforehand, wear clean clothes and avoid heavy cologne. If you are meeting in a hotel, make sure the room is tidy and that you are alone unless something else was agreed.

On the day

Payment

Have the agreed amount ready, ideally in an envelope, and hand it over at the start without being asked. Do not make the companion count money in front of you or chase you for it. Never try to pay less than agreed.

Respect boundaries

Whatever was agreed in advance is what the booking includes. A companion can end a meeting at any time if they feel unsafe or disrespected, and you should accept that without argument. Consent can be withdrawn at any moment, by either person.

Discretion goes both ways

Do not take photos, do not ask for personal details such as a real name or home address and do not try to contact the companion through personal social media accounts. In return, a professional companion will respect your privacy too.

Alcohol and drugs

Arriving drunk is one of the most common reasons for a booking to be cancelled on the spot. If you offer a drink, do not pressure anyone to accept. Illegal drugs have no place in a booking.

After the meeting

Leave on time unless you have agreed and paid for an extension. A short thank-you message is appreciated but not required. If you want to see the same companion again, simply book again through the usual channel. Do not turn up unannounced or send repeated messages.

Quick checklist

1. Read the whole profile and check the local law.
2. Send a short, polite, non-explicit message.
3. Complete any screening requested.
4. Arrive on time, clean and sober.
5. Pay the agreed rate at the start.
6. Respect boundaries and privacy.
7. Leave on time.

A note on exploitation

If anything suggests that the person you are meeting is under 18, is not free to leave, is controlled by someone else or does not speak for themselves, do not go ahead. Leave and report your concerns. In the UK, call the Modern Slavery & Exploitation Helpline on 08000 121 700; in the US, the National Human Trafficking Hotline on 1-888-373-7888; anywhere in the EU, call 112 in an emergency.